1 in 5 mums claim their kids believe they have a favourite child But the majority say they love their kids equally Youngest children are the most likely to believe they are the favourite
While the majority of British mums say they love their kids equally, a significant number report that their kids do believe they have a favourite child.
According to the survey of 1,000 UK mothers of one or more children, carried out by One4all, the Post Office gift card, 1 in 5 mums say their kids believe they actually favour one of their children more than the others.
And interestingly, youngest children are the most likely to believe they are their mum’s favourite.
As many as 20% of mums say their children will go as far as to tease one another over who is the favourite.
While the research proved that the vast majority of British mums love their children equally, it did reveal how the relationship between a mother and her kids varies according to the order in which they were born.
The survey revealed that firstborns really do stick close to their mums, and even in adulthood are most likely to socialise with their mum, inviting them out with their friends and turning to them for advice.
Mums also report believing that they have the most in common with their oldest child.
Meanwhile, it appears that there is some truth in ‘middle children syndrome’ – the idea that middle children receive the least attention – however it could be that this is actually being driven by the children themselves.
The research shows that they are the least reliant on mum, even in adulthood. They are the least likely to bring home their dirty laundry, to move back home after moving out, and to the bank of mum for handouts.
Despite youngest children being in some ways the worst behaved – for example, they are least likely to listen to their mum – they are the most physically affectionate.
Aoife Davey, group marketing manager at One4all Gift Cards, commented: “The research revealed some really interesting findings around how mums and their kids’ relationships vary depending on whether they were born first, last or in the middle and even more so, around how so many kids think their mum has a favourite.
“It’s not so surprising to see that the baby of the family believes they are the favourite and while there’s no denying the relationship varies between a mother and her first born, middle children and last born, our research shows a mother’s love for her child remains the same, no matter when they were born.” “Mums will worry about everything with their first-born child, but by the time the other children come along, it’s likely they have experienced the good, the bad and the ugly of motherhood and will be able to relax a lot more. Also, younger siblings will learn from the mistakes their older brothers or sisters will make, and so are likely to be less of a worry to mums.”